Lets Celebrate Consanguinamory Day, April 28th

This year is historic for our community for a very special reason, it is the year that we celebrate Consanguinamory Day for the very first time! It is a day to be set aside especially to celebrate consang relationships and orientation.

The origins of this holiday are from our forum, Kindred Spirits, where we were discussing the idea of having something similar to Valentines day to call our very own. We discussed possible dates for this occasion, and then put it to the vote. While very few people actually voted, we believe that the poll did show a preference for 28th of April. The reason? Because it is symbolic of double love. Valentines day is celebrated on the 14th of the 2nd month, so we just doubled the numbers, which gives us 28th of the 4th month.

So, how do we celebrate this fine occasion? As I said, it’s very much like Valentines day, we can of course buy our loved ones the kind of things we usually would at that time, chocolates, booze and perfumes and the like, perhaps dining out, or a nice takeaway meal late at night. HOWEVER, I might make a small suggestion… if you’re going to buy flowers, how about choosing the one flower that most symbolizes our love, lillies. We are after all Friends of Lily, so it is most fitting. Even if you’re a single consang, you can still buy some lillies for the house to celebrate your sexual identity, I already did!

You know what’s even better? It’s a way to flaunt it innocently, people who are not in the know wouldn’t know what those lillies mean, they’d just think ‘oh, somebody’s gotten a nice bunch of flowers’, and might assume it’s a birthday or get well gift or something.

Finally, I’d like to wish all of you a happy Consang Day! Stay happy, stay strong, and celebrate your love in style! From this year forth, let every 28th April be celebrated in this way. It’s high time we begun celebrating something uniquely ours, and this is it!

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Orientations are NOT to blame for tragedies

I’m writing this as a pre-emptive strike against those who would seek to use the Pladl tragedy as justification for condemning consang people. We all know that there are those waiting in the wing to say ‘See, this is what GSA can lead to, now do you see why incest is illegal?” As you already know, people who come out with such things clearly don’t know what they’re talking about, and this article explains why.

I think for most people, it’s a given that people can be good or bad people, independantly of their sexual orientation. For example we all know good and bad people who are heterosexual, and good and bad people who are homosexual. It will come as no shock to my readers that good and bad people also exist within the consang population. Just like the rest of you, we experience the best and the worst that life has to offer. We’re really no different.

I’ve encountered literally hundreds of GSA and Non-GSA couples online, and guess what, none of them has gone on a homicidal rampage. Most of them are either happily settled in their relationships, or are struggling with the same issues every regular couple does, and yes, some of us are coping with the extra stress of secrecy. Guess what? That is NORMAL LIFE. What happened with the Pladls is NOT REPRESENTATIVE of consanguinamory, it’s every bit as anomalous to us as it is to regulars.

Look at it another way, if a man shoots his wife and children, do you blame regular relationships, or do you condemn what he did and try to understand why it happened? Of course we all know, we all do the latter. What I’m asking all journalists to do, if they do choose to write about the Pladl tragedy, is to afford us the same respect. Our community do not condone or excuse the terrible actions taken by Steven Pladl, but we will try to understand it.

My point is that killers come from all kinds of backgrounds, and from all sexual orientations. Ones orientation has NOTHING WHATSOEVER to do with ones ability to kill. This killer was a consang, but he was not a killer BECAUSE he was consang, he was a killer because he was unstable, likely because he was driven to it by condemnation, and legal and media harassment. So before you point the finger, think about what I’ve said today.

The Pladl Tragedy

Well folks, I was intending to make a post very soon but I did not expect it to be about something so awful as this. Some of you may be aware of the case of Steven and Katie Pladl, a father and daughter who were separated when Katie was put up for adoption as a baby. They were reunited in 2016 after finding each other on social media, and became lovers, Katie gave birth to a baby in September 2017. All sounds great doesn’t it? Well, it would have been had it not been for the interference of law enforcement and the media.

You see, they were found out and charged with incest by North Carolina, and then as per usual the media had a complete dipshit frenzy about it and went on what could only be described accurately as a witchhunt. Basically, the whole thing was to condemn this couple and treat them as nothing more than a commodity to sell newspapers.

These actions had a price, and a hefty one at that. You see, the pressure of the media attention and impending criminal case against them, for what ought not be a crime to begin with, must have tipped Steven over the edge. He killed Katies adoptive father, Katie, their child, and himself.

Now, please do not misunderstand me here, I in no way condone a murder-suicide. Steven obviously did a very bad thing here, BUT, we must understand the probable reasons WHY he did it. Can you just imagine the pressure of simultaneous legal and media harassment, not to mention the danger that would bring into ones life? Think about it, could this man walk down the street without somebody making comments about him being an ‘incest dad’ or some other such stuff? His face had been printed all over the media after all. Furthermore, his daughter, Katie, was prohibited from contacting him and was staying with her adoptive parents after she was released on bond pending trial. By extension, he could also not see the baby he had with her.

I think this would be enough to tip many people over the edge. So while we can and should condemn his actions as morally wrong, we can at least have some human empathy and understand why he did what he did. He was a man who could see no other way out, either for him or his daughter. It is obvious he was not thinking straight when he committed this crime, and it is equally obvious that it was a crime of passion.

The question is, after all this has happened, do people STILL think that harassing and persecuting people by using the law and media as weapons is the right way to handle unpopular relationships? What harm were they doing to anyone? Oh, that’s right, none at all. Had they have been left alone in peace, none of these people would be dead. The Pladls would have raised their child as a couple, and they’d have been happy. Instead, there are four funerals for the family to plan. What a tragic waste of human life this is. The authorities and the media have blood on their hands, they may not have pulled the trigger, but they forced the hand that did by inflicting so much emotional pain that he felt he had no other choice.

How many more people must suffer before these laws are changed? How long until the father/daughter couple across the road are just that, a couple deserving of equal courtesy and respect as everyone else? How many more people must DIE before these injustices will stop? Yes, DIE. Discrimination can be lethal, and this proves my point.